lack of contentment. It’s like a cancer that begins without an
obvious cause or provocation. One seemingly unimportant
dissatisfaction breeds another and then spreads like a
dreaded disease into unrelated areas of our lives. Before we
know it, our entire being is consumed with disappointment
and frustration, and we might not even be able to remember how it all started.
Allowing this mindset will rob you of ever feeling total fulfillment
and gratification. How can you when you’re obsessed with what you
don’t have, where you don’t live, what you can’t buy, where you can’t go,
and what you can’t do? The negativity in that thread of thinking is dark
and foreboding and will bog your brain down and keep it there. The
restlessness that comes from always wanting and looking for something
better is exasperating, and the depression that ensues from never quite
getting it all is life-altering. Emotional discord can have real physical
I know someone who suffers from this condition. If she doesn’t
have it, she wants it. If she has it but you bought a better one, she must
acquire the best to top the better. If, by chance, she doesn’t have something
and has no plans to get it, she feels compelled to explain why she
doesn’t intend to do so. It’s almost as if she must announce her decision
so you know it was an intentional choice on her part and not that it was
out of her financial reach. This person, on the outside, has it all: a gorgeous
home, financial stability, a healthy family, and lots of friends. It
pains me to see her navigate this path. The money she spends trying to
satiate her discontentment is exorbitant, and the toes she steps on along
the way are numerous. I’m exhausted just watching and listening, so
I can’t imagine how drained she personally feels. And for what? It just
makes no sense.
Does this hit home for you? Do you know someone suffering this way?
Don’t despair, there is hope! Here are 5 steps to help you ‘dis’ discontentment forever and live a life brimming over with satisfaction, fulfillment, and true joy:
- Try replacing “I hope” for something you desire, as opposed to “I want.” This removes the necessity from the desire and sets you up for less disappointment if the “I hope” doesn’t come to fruition.
- Evaluate what you’ve done and acquired over the past year. What brought you true joy and what was honestly no more than a stepping stone to propel you forward in conquering the next “I want”?
- Develop a true appreciation for what you already have and realize that it’s probably more than the majority of the world’s population could ever hope to get a glimpse of. Perspective is key.
- Delight in your blessings instead of always longing for more. Remind yourself it’s not about the acquisition, as this practice will inevitable leave you empty and unfulfilled. An attitude of gratitude can make all the difference.
- Above all else, seek God for strength and guidance. Remember that everything you need and all you should want are in Christ Jesus anyway, so why look elsewhere?
Hebrews 13: 5 drives the point home further. “Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, ‘Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.’”
This verse is true for so much more than just money. We become content when we
realize that God can and will meet all of our needs. Every last one! So, what
are we searching for?
discontentment. That’s life. It’s unavoidable. We pray, though, that
you’ll have a heightened sense of awareness to this behavior so when it
rears its head, you’ll manage it swiftly and deter the breeding of frustration
and despair. If you have God reigning in your life with the promise
of eternal salvation, what you do or don’t have on this earth becomes
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