A recent ‘No Agenda’ day on the lake prompted me to rerun one of my favorite posts. It was a fabulous day of relaxation, freedom, and joy. I pray the words from this post speak to your heart and motivate you to un-plan and de-schedule! Read on and you’ll see exactly what I mean.
When was your last ‘No Agenda’ kind of day? Was it a day ago? A week? A year? Never?
If you know us personally or have read Declutter Now!, you know that our 23’ Regal boat is named the ‘No Agenda’. Luckily, she came to us without a name so we had free rein to start fresh and call her whatever we decided. We’ve had a ball naming our book, ministry, street, and fish, and we had no intentions, whatsoever, of selling our little boat short. After debating over a name for weeks, we finally made a choice. Not only did we fall in love with her name, but we nailed it perfectly, if we do say so ourselves! 🙂
Sure, we liked the name when we chose it, but over the course of the last two years, the ‘No Agenda’ has repeatedly taught us the importance of the true meaning behind the name – both on and off the water.
What does your calendar look like? Is every box cram-packed with writing? Special events, to-do’s, and appointments, scribbled in and spilling over the edges of every date? “I need to get a bigger planner,” you complain. Hmmm….no… maybe you need fewer commitments?!
“That’s just life,” you might argue. “This is what it looks like when you have busy kids or are running your own business.” No argument there, but what we propose is that not EVERY DAY should look like that. Balance is essential.
Years ago Sherry was flipping through Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff…and it’s all small stuff by Richard Carlson. While there was a boatload of great advice packed throughout, she took away one special gem that she still treasures today. Carlson’s best line was to ‘leave white space on your calendar’.
Visualize this with us – Calendar boxes filled with writing, notes, and instructions… and then one box, one beautiful, glorious, empty box – just WHITE. No writing. No times. No appointments. Nothing. Completely void of commitment. Lacking any hint of obligation.
That white box so perfectly embodies our ‘No Agenda’ kind of day.
WHY is this SO important?
- Our bodies need time to recharge
- We can reconnect with family and relax together
- It’s fun to leave room available to be spontaneous
- God speaks to us when we are quiet enough to hear him. “Be still, and know that I am God…” Psalm 46:10.
We’re sure you can think of a few good reasons yourself!
What does a ‘No Agenda’ day look like? No must-do’s, no hard-and-fast plans, no time obligations. No nothing. Leave the day wide open and see where it takes you.
- If you receive an invitation you’d like to accept, you can.
- If you want to watch movies all day, you can.
- If you’re dying to get out for a hike, you can.
- If you want to chill by the pool all day, you can.
The idea is NOT that you ‘can’t do anything’, but instead, to leave your schedule wide open so that you CAN do something….whatever you want….if you want….or not!
It’s far more adventurous than you might suspect. A counselor Sherry used to know called it ‘planned spontaneity’. Give yourself the opportunity to be free for a spur-of-the-moment decision or an impulsive moment. Plan to be unstructured. It almost seems ridiculous that we have to go to such extremes to ensure a break, but we do and you should.
Note, however, that your ‘No Agenda Day’ will seem quite long. Bummer, huh? Actually, not at all!
Do you ever gripe that the days fly by ever too quickly and seem to be over before they start? We promise you that at the end of your ‘No Agenda Day’ you’ll think differently. No fast forward here. You’ll have had a chance to FEEL the entire day and embrace it for all it offered. You’ll truly be blown away how differently the day progresses when it starts with nothing but ‘white stuff’. You just gotta try this!
Plan a ‘No Agenda’ kind of day. Circle the date on your calendar and refuse to put anything on that date and see what happens. And then tell us about it. We can’t wait to hear!
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