My grandfather was angry, my dad was angry and I used to be angry too. I know a lot about anger.
It’s easy to feel justified. You’ve been wronged; deceived; lied to. I know I was.
Allowing anger to seep in never fixes the situation. It only makes it worse. I know this first hand.
Many resort to anger out of fear, or in an attempt to control or manipulate. No good can come of this. I know this all too well. We often allow anger to go unchecked in our comfort zones, particularly at home with our family. We may think we’re gaining control by hanging on tighter, but in essence we’re tearing down trust levels and pushing people away. It’s better to make a proactive decision to let someone go, than to allow anger to do the work for you. Yup, you guessed it, I know about this too.
Ephesians 4:26-27 tells us, “’In your anger do not sin’: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.”
The devil wants you to be angry. He uses anger to snare you and he rejoices when you are separated from those you love or are miserable from the fallout of your actions. It’s been my experience that angry people often die alone and in absolute regret. Take steps NOW to make sure this doesn’t happen to you.
Anger is a controllable emotion. Recognize it and call it for what it is. Often anger can be turned on and off at will. I heard a pastor once speak of how a man can be in the middle of an angry tirade at his family, but when his golf buddy interrupts with a phone call to schedule a golf date, the man can switch gears and turn on the charm. After the phone call, the tirade continues. That’s a choice folks. If your anger issues are deep rooted and extreme, seek resources, such as counseling and support groups. Apologize to those you have wronged, ask for forgiveness and ALWAYS use prayer to seek out God’s help. Ask the Holy Spirit to guide and direct your path. Be open to change.
Contrary to how it might appear, I’m NOT a “know it all”, unless you ask my wife! I just experienced a period of time years ago where my anger controlled me and I had to make changes or I would die a lonely, regretful man. I KNEW this was not what I wanted and it wasn’t what God expected from me either. If anger is an issue for you, take responsibility, get control, make changes and rid it from your life forever. I did and I KNOW you can too!