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The Danger of Anger

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My grandfather was angry, my dad was angry and I used to be angry too. I know a lot about anger.

It’s easy to feel justified. You’ve been wronged; deceived; lied to. I know I was.

Allowing anger to seep in never fixes the situation. It only makes it worse. I know this first hand.

Many resort to anger out of fear, or in an attempt to control or manipulate. No good can come of this. I know this all too well. We often allow anger to go unchecked in our comfort zones, particularly at home with our family. We may think we’re gaining control by hanging on tighter, but in essence we’re tearing down trust levels and pushing people away. It’s better to make a proactive decision to let someone go, than to allow anger to do the work for you. Yup, you guessed it, I know about this too.

Ephesians 4:26-27 tells us, “’In your anger do not sin’: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.”

The devil wants you to be angry. He uses anger to snare you and he rejoices when you are separated from those you love or are miserable from the fallout of your actions. It’s been my experience that angry people often die alone and in absolute regret. Take steps NOW to make sure this doesn’t happen to you.

Anger is a controllable emotion. Recognize it and call it for what it is. Often anger can be turned on and off at will. I heard a pastor once speak of how a man can be in the middle of an angry tirade at his family, but when his golf buddy interrupts with a phone call to schedule a golf date, the man can switch gears and turn on the charm. After the phone call, the tirade continues. That’s a choice folks. If your anger issues are deep rooted and extreme, seek resources, such as counseling and support groups. Apologize to those you have wronged, ask for forgiveness and ALWAYS use prayer to seek out God’s help. Ask the Holy Spirit to guide and direct your path. Be open to change.

Contrary to how it might appear, I’m NOT a “know it all”, unless you ask my wife! I just experienced a period of time years ago where my anger controlled me and I had to make changes or I would die a lonely, regretful man. I KNEW this was not what I wanted and it wasn’t what God expected from me either. If anger is an issue for you, take responsibility, get control, make changes and rid it from your life forever. I did and I KNOW you can too!

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2 Responses to The Danger of Anger

  1. Rosemary Dunn says:

    Lindon, you have no idea how close this hit home. Someone I love more than life is married to this person you describe, and it is only for the love of their children that they stay together. I fear that these two precious little boys will grow up to continue the cycle. How do I suggest this person get help without inciting a riot?

    • Lindon says:

      Rosemary, this can be so difficult. Much the same as approaching an addict with a problem, denial is often in full swing and if not, the individual doesn’t want to be ousted. The first thing my wife and I do is pray. We pray for a great reveal, not only for the person that has the issue, but also for our role in the situation. If there are children or a spouse in danger and / or physical abuse is occurring, there is really no choice but to speak up. Children, especially, must be protected. How well do you know this individual? That may help you answer whether it should be you to initiate the conversation or perhaps someone else better suited. Also, how should the person be addressed. People respond differently to personal and written communication, so which would be more effective in this circumstance. Anger is a secondary emotion, reflecting the fact that a primary emotion such as fear, frustration or hurt is occurring. This person needs to be lovingly encouraged to go below the surface and deal with the real issues. Hope this helps!

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