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Romans 12:2
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There Aint Enough Dirt to Keep a Good Hurt Down

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  • “I’m not going to deal with it. It’s done; I’ll just move on.”
  • “I don’t have the time or energy to worry about it.”
  • “Eh, whatever, I’ll just leave well enough alone.”
  • “Dealing with things will just make them worse. I’m not up
    for that.”
  • “It’s done and buried, right where it belongs!”

Have you ever thought or said any of the above? Most of us have, but how effective is this approach? Not very!

We’ve found that no matter how hard we try to ignore a situation or bury a problem, more often than not, it’ll rise to the surface sooner or later. This creates a double whammy. Not only will the issue come back to haunt you and you’re going to have to deal with it anyway, but while you think the sleeping giant is actually quietly asleep, you’re kidding yourself. Left unaddressed, fallout from the hurt, frustration or bitterness you endured spills over daily into your role as a spouse, parent, child, sibling, friend and co-worker. The only thing sleeping is your common sense! Negative feelings stuffed deep inside influence the decisions you make, the trust you lose, the anger you wield, the sadness that envelops you and the fear you live with.

John 8:32, “…and the truth will set you free.”

Sometimes there are words better left unsaid, and occasionally it’s best to pass on a confrontation, but when we suggest it’s ALWAYS advisable to deal with issues, we’re speaking internally – FOR YOU! Burying hurts and negative emotions only breeds more discord and sets the stage for long term grief and heartache.

Whatever the case, ‘Resolve to Resolve’.

Don’t just cover up the pain, but declutter it permanently. This may mean hardcore soul searching, changing previous behaviors, having a conversation with your offender, offering forgiveness, or even counseling, but nothing is worth more than your peace and joy. And remember, not only will you personally benefit, but those around you will as well.

 

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2 Responses to There Aint Enough Dirt to Keep a Good Hurt Down

  1. Dave Genung says:

    Great post Sherry. It caused me to think of how I have dealt with forgiveness in the past. I have come to realize that forgiveness isn’t as simple as uttering the words “I forgive you”. True forgiveness isn’t just a word, but actions. It is most akin to a twelve step program – there are steps we have to actively go through in order to reach that place where we can truly say “I forgive you” or “I have forgiven”. There are actual physical acts we can do to express forgiveness as well.

    The best example of this I can think of is the movie/book “Amish Grace” – How Forgiveness Transcended Tragedy. You might recall the tragedy perpetrated by Charles Roberts on the Amish community in October of ’06 when he walked armed into a one room school house intent on molesting and murdering his young female captives. The book/movie delves into how the Amish community collectively embraced the family of the murderer and expressed their forgiveness. The public reaction at the time was amazement and admiration, but also there was a sense of outrage for some.

    The Amish have this simple explanation for their behavior: “When we pray the Lord’s Prayer, we ask the Father to forgive us as we forgive others. Forgiving and being forgiven are inseparable. The person who does not forgive others will not be forgiven…The person who refuses to forgive others has cut himself off from love and mercy. We must forgive, accept, and love, if we want God to forgive us our daily trespasses.”

    Although this explanation seems simple enough, the process and the actual practice is certainly tremendously difficult. If you haven’t seen the movie or read the book, I’d highly recommend it.

    Dave

    • Sherry says:

      Lindon & I have not seen the movie, so will have to check it out! Interestingly, even as I read your post, when you spoke of the tragedy and the forgiveness the Amish people extended, I squirmed. As you said, the process and actual practice is difficult. The prayer is that we would always keep the goal in mind and work tirelessly toward achieving it. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

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